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SEXUAL ASSAULT: SHE’S NEVER “ASKING FOR IT”

Sexual assault must never be tolerated. Period. Any form of inappropriate touching without consent is not ok, even if it’s a person you know or consider a friend. Saying “no” doesn’t have to turn into a fight, it’s not a debate or up for discussion. No means no. Unfortunately, the word no is sometimes not taken seriously and because of this I (and millions of other men/women) have been grabbed, groped, pushed, forced, pressured, hurt.. the list goes on. The way I dealt with sexual assault was I suppressed. If I didn’t talk about it, it never happened. But it did. It has happened to me and it wasn’t until my most recent encounter that I went over the edge. Enough is enough. I came home from work, pressed record, and made the below video. Nervous to hit the publish button, I didn’t know how it would be received. Will I be judged? Not understood? Am I relieving too much information? Then I thought of the millions of men and women who are also victims of sexual assault and …

IT’S OK

It’s ok to be on your own. Take time for self-care. It’s ok to not understand. Not everything needs to have an explanation. We are currently living on a planet that no one knows the exact age of, spiraling hurndreds of miles per hour in vast darkness, in a universe filled with matter we can’t truly identify. Yet, here we are. It’s ok to be a bitch. When you need to stand up for yourself, be stern. Don’t let people walk all over you just because they’re louder. Let them know your truth. It’s ok to be sad. Ugly cry it out. Scream at the top of your lungs. Let yourself feel your way through. It’s ok to miss him. He misses you too. It’s ok to give into a moment of weakness. Be honest with your feelings and remind yourself how far you’ve come. You will make mistakes but you’re also capable of making radical changes. It’s ok to fall asleep early. Put your phone on airplane mode, slather a thick layer of lavender …

I WENT BACK HOME TO CANADA

I haven’t wrote a regular catch-up-with-me blog post in awhile.. eek. Well then, I guess it’s time for you to grab a cup of tea and take a seat because I’m feeling chatty! Also, I need to fill you in quickly about my life in Korea so the first half of this post is dedicated to that, and I apologize in advance as I know my thoughts will be all over the place. READY? LET’S GO! I am only in Busan for another 4-ish months and then I’m off onto my next adventure. People have been asking me what I’ll miss about South Korea and honestly, I couldn’t tell you because I haven’t been away long enough to know. Perhaps the kind people? Convenience stores at every corner? Cheap public transportation? The food? Well, maybe not so much the food, Korean BBQ.. MAYBE.. I know I’ll miss are the picture perfect parks. I recently went for a 5km run at Samnak Riverside, the place with the best running trails in the city. My 10km marathon in Chuncheon is a …

I’M OFFICIALLY 27 – HERE’S EVERYTHING I WANT TO ACCOMPLISH THIS YEAR

If you couldn’t already tell from the title.. IT’S MY BIRTHDAY TODAY! This year, I’m surprisingly less excited to celebrate. I know, who am I anymore?! And I can’t pin-point a reason why I’m feeling subdued. Perhaps I’m still jet-lagged from my recent trip back home to Canada and reaction time has been delayed. Or, it’s because I’ve discovered more than one grey hair on my head and it feels like my youth has officially ended. Mmmk but serious question, if I pluck a grey hair out, do more grow in? Or, is that a myth? Please advise. ANYWAY! I came into the world 27 years ago (holy shit I’m almost 30!), and if you remember from last year, here were the goals I wanted to achieve at 26. Let’s see how I did: 1. Write a book. This didn’t happen because it’s still not the time. As much as I want to sit down and commit to my writing, I’m constantly sidetracked with other projects. One day I will write a goddamn book but (again..) this wasn’t …

SUMMER LIST 2017 | ACCOMPLISHED GOALS

This morning I looked at the date in my calendar: August 31st. It’s Thursday, which means I have soccer after work, gotta visit the bank at some point, and then.. it registered. I lowered my head in shame and muttered “ah shit” beneath my breath. Today is the deadline for accomplishing my summer goals and I’m going to be totally honest, I forget ALL about them. To be fair, I did say last year that I needed to step it up, and I ended up being too ambitious, if that’s a thing. Awell. Life goes on. Read below for my accomplishments and weak ass excuses for this years summer goals. JESSICA’S SUMMER GOALS 2017! 1. Visit Namhae Island and go to the German Village. I went on my own (because, lack of friends) but ended up meeting spectacular people along the way. The day turned out to be one of the best I’ve had in South Korea! 2. Attend Ultra in Seoul. Another event I went to, all by myself (should really look into how to make more friends..) but yet again I met …

LIFE IN KOREA Q&A (SUMMER PASTA MUKBANG)

Hey friends! Grab some food, and maybe a yummy sangria, and eat lunch with me! In my latest video I answer your questions and give sub-par advice on summer fashion staples, negative feedback, life goals, etc etc etc. Also. I LEAVE FOR NEW ZEALAND AND AUSTRALIA IN ONE WEEK! AHH! CAN’T WAIT TO CUDDLE WIF ALL DA KOALA BEARSSS!

BOSEONG GREEN TEA FIELDS

TGIF!!! Hello all. I’m currently at work, desk warming. Desk warming – expectations: Me sitting in front of the computer, working hard, planning activities and gathering reading materials for summer camp, which commences Monday. I’m finished planning summer camp, so.. Desk warming – reality: Me scrolling through Instagram, eating snacks, and researching how long it would take to travel to each country, in case of a mid-life crisis. If you’re wondering, if you spend 5 days in each of the 196 countries, and assuming it would take a day to travel to each of them, it would (apparently) take 3 years, 2 months, and 3 weeks. And probably a bajillion dollars. Anyway, I haven’t made a life update blog post in awhile and quite frankly, it’s Friday and I’m feeling lazy. So, I will show you pictures of what I’ve been up to and explain them all in a Haiku. *ahem* On top of a roof. Bridge lifts up at 2 P.M. Decent view, I guess. What are these trees called? They’re pretty and I …

THE CURE FOR LONELINESS

Hello all! I’ve been M.I.A for nearly a month. Perhaps it’s because the summer season arrived and my body was like, “get outside and give the internet a rest for a bit.” Whether the humidity has gotten to me or not, I haven’t been feeling motivated, and understanding how I felt and what I could do to help myself was (and still is) a rocky road. So, I unplugged. Looking back, I think that was the right thing to do. Sometimes we need time to nurture our bodies and take care of our souls, and we can’t authentically do that with an audience watching. When I knew the funk was lingering a little too long, I forced myself to grab my camera and express how I was feeling though my latest video on Get Up & Go Girl. It’s a different style than what I usually do but I hope you like it.

BUSAN ALLEYWAY FESTIVAL

Hello all! The official days of summer are fast approaching (ONE WEEK AWAY!). I can already smell the scent of sunscreen, chlorine, and freshly cut grass *SNIFF SNIFF* ahhh. But, let’s be real, I live in Korea so it’s more like the smell of seafood, kimchi, and cigarette smoke. Take what you can get.. Summer means getting outside A LOT more, and what better way to spend an afternoon than exploring the Busan Alleyway Festival. Two weeks ago the city celebrated four popular alleyways, each showered with artwork and history. Honestly, I would not have known about these fascinating little side streets if it were not for the weekend celebration.I was fascinated to learn that there’s a monorail in one of the alleyways since older citizens live higher in the mountains. The monorail makes it easier for them to access their homes instead of busting their knee caps while climbing hundreds of steps. But if you do brave the steps, there are beautiful lookout points where you can gaze upon staggered city rooftops, the deep blue …

CUPCAKES, COW BLOOD, AND EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN

Another week, another life update. Even though I haven’t had a true life update in three weeks.. oy. It’s currently Sunday evening and I will be going to bed in about an hour, but I wanted to get this up so you know that I’m still alive and well. Vlogging every week can be difficult, sometimes. Especially when you’re going through life’s adversities or feel exhausted, then no part of me wants to shove a camera in front of my face and forced to be entertaining. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE filming and editing videos of my daily life, it’s a hobby. I do it because it allows me to release creative energy and keeps me occupied. But some weeks, like the last couple weeks, it can be strenuous to film a side of me that’s a bit more vulnerable. But no need to worry, all is well. I’m happy and revitalized so, let’s talk about Sport’s Day. Last year I filmed Sport’s Day at my school in a little more depth, which you can watch by clicking, HERE. …

GERMAN VILLAGE & ANCHOVY FESTIVAL IN NAMHAE

On May 3, Buddha’s Birthday, I had the day off from work so I hopped on a bus from Busan and three hours later I was standing on South Korea’s fifth largest island, Namhae. First stop was the German Village, built for Korean-Germans who returned from Germany in the 1960’s where they worked as nurses and minors to earn foreign currency. Now the quaint little houses have turned into cafes, pubs, and restaurants selling German beers and bratwurst. Second stop was The Mijo Anchovy Festival which included bare hand fishing, seafood eating, K-pop performances, and a ton of fireworks. Check out my Namhae vlog to see more of the beautiful island! This post was created for EPIK e-Press.

DAEGU LANTERN FESTIVAL

Oh sun, how I’ve missed you. As of late the weather in Busan has been glorious. I have been out of the house a whole lot and recently went on a solo hike at Oryukdo. The entire walk was B-E-A-U-tiful! The coast stretches on for almost 4 km and the scenic views make you stop every few steps to take in the the sight of the endless sea.The day after my hike, I went for a stroll around Bosu-Dong Book Alley. I always love coming down here to browse through the thousands of books, some you can find in English if you look close enough. I took a pit-stop at a cafe at the end of the alley and had something called “Wedding Tea” which was caramel flavoured, and it was scrumptious.As I was sitting at the cafe, I was browsing on my phone to see what was around the area. On Google Maps I saw a huge green patch just above where I was located. It was an area called Jungang Park. I had the entire day to …

MY SUMMER GOALS 2017

OH YES! My annual summer goals list is here and I am so excited I could pee my pants. Funny side note: When I visited my friend Dev the other weekend in Seoul we were walking back from dinner and I suddenly had to pee (blame it on the margaritas!). We were in the elevator of his apartment and he was making me laugh.. not a small giggle either, the on-the-ground-can’t-breathe-eyes-watering-probably-going-to-pass-out type. I made him turn around and put his nose to the corner so he wouldn’t look at me squirm but I could still see him chuckling to himself. I started laughing harder. When the elevator opened I ran to his door and bolted to the washroom. He then YELLED at me for running into his house with my shoes on, which made me laugh even more. Before I knew it, I felt a warm flow go down my legs. Yup. I peed my pants. While crouching in front of his toilet. Laughing. Shoes, still on. #bless Anyway, back to the reason for this blog post, I have compiled my …