I’ve been watching Amy Young for a little while now. She’s a life coach who makes sassy advice videos about boys and relationships that are both thoroughly helpful and entertaining.
Amy recently made a video about the most important relationship you’ll ever have, the one with yourself. Accepting where you are, in this moment, right now. It’s probably one of the most honest, relatable and inspirational videos she’s ever made. I wanted to share it with you because SO many of us are struggling with accepting where we are at this moment in time. A lot of my friends (especially as of recent) and even myself can relate. We think we should have it all figured out because we see people on Instagram, for example, travelling the world, working at their dream job and in a relationship with a model who has perfect hair (I’m convinced those people are robots). We relate our real lives to those who filter theirs and it puts a lot of pressure on ourselves.
A couple years ago, for example, I could not financially support myself, struggled with living with my parents, worked non-paid internships, and waitressed long hours on the side. I thought I was failing as a 20-something because I was not living an ideal life.
It wasn’t until I was bawling my eyes out to my cousin about how I’m struggling to accept my situation and she told me something I will never forget, “you are exactly where you need to be.”
This is why I love this video, because Amy talks about accepting where you are and what you have in the present, and I think young people need to be reminded that it’s ok to not be in a relationship, it’s ok to live with your parents, it’s ok to be 10 lbs over weight because like Amy said, when you do get in a relationships, when you do start to make money and when you do lose that weight, how are you going to know how to accept yourself when, for so long, you haven’t?
Now that I have fully accepted my current situation (still live at home with my parents, btw), it makes it easier for me to be proactive on where I want to go and what I want to do next. I keep having to remind myself that I’m 24, I have so much of my life to live and that I should stop putting unnecessary pressure on myself and to just be in the moment.
“Full disclosure I wait tables on the side along with coaching and while I’ve been building up my business I’ve been living at my parents house…I have such a hard time with being ok with that’s where I am…I see so many of you struggling with that too feeling like, I just want to be there already, I just want to be accomplished. It is ok to be where you are right now, there is no where else, no other way than exactly where you are. And where you are is the perfect jumping off point to move in a new direction, but it has to come from a place to accepting where you are, right now.”
– Amy Young