I’m not totally clear on how or why I haven’t seen The Holiday before last night. I bawled for the last 25 minutes of the movie but not a “I’m sad” sort of cry, more like, “I can relate to this situation, Kate Winslet you’re my spirit animal and Jude Law is so handsome I can’t even handle it” type. Ya know?
What I loved most about the flick was its reliability. From my interpretation, The Holiday circled around the importance of letting people into your life who make you feel significant. All four main characters – Iris, Amanda, Miles and Graham craved a certain kind of attention, the type that makes you feel loved and attained by someone else. For example Iris, Kate Winslet’s character, was in an unfortunate situation where she was with a guy for three years who wanted her, but didn’t want to love her. It’s a mind-game people play and fall victim to. We let people into our lives who don’t see us as significant enough to respect our feelings or have the nerve to communicate theirs.
With online dating, social media and apps where you’re able to swipe left or right for a desirable suitor, it’s difficult to date someone who sees you as significant because we’re all consumed with options. There are so many eligible girls and guys in our surrounding area, why commit to one when you can simultaneously date five. Mediocre dates and conversations are cool, right? Or, you can be a grown up and look at romance as an outlet to be creative and create memories, even for a brief amount of time (quality is much more important than quantity).
The Holiday also taught me the importance of seeing the world in another perspective and opening yourself to opportunities. If Iris didn’t realize there is more to the world than this one jerk who has been dragging her down, she would not have befriended Arthur. Arthur was the old Hollywood legend she met while visiting LA from London. She convinced Arthur to accept his film appreciation award, even though he declined many times prior since he thought he was too old and insignificant for anyone to show up and support. But, as we see, a room filled with people who DO appreciate him (this is where the bawling began). If you open yourself to new experiences and opportunities, new experiences and opportunities in turn find you.
I highly recommend this movie, I give it a solid four napkinheads out of five.
“I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn’t know you had inside you. And it doesn’t matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends, you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he’ll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you’ll go somewhere new. And you’ll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade.” – Iris