I recently went on a date a man who said women need to wear makeup in order to be beautiful.
Thought he was kidding, until we went out and wouldn’t even look at me because I didn’t reach his ‘expectations.’ His ‘expectations’ was for me to resemble the 1,258 air-brushed women in bikinis he follows on Instagram. His ‘expectations’ was for me to wear tight dresses, 6-inch heels, have tanned skin, and spend time on my appearance as to not embarrass him.
He concluded because I was a tomboy, his ridiculous standard of beauty could never be reached.
I play sports, wear loose t-shirts bought at the men’s section of H&M and am not afraid to get a little dirt in my hair and you know what? I am damn beautiful, because beauty is defined by respecting your body, kindness, intelligence, and strength NOT pencil skirts, heels, and a heavy hand of makeup.
I know his words and actions had nothing to do with me, and everything to do with his own insecurities.
To all of the women who may go out with him in the future, I hope you have a rational sense of mind and understand that you should never, ever beat yourselves down over your appearance just to validate this little boy’s unrealistic ‘expectations’ of beauty.