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EXPECTATIONS OF BEAUTY

I recently dated a man who said women need to wear makeup in order to be beautiful.

Thought he was kidding, until we went out and wouldn’t even look at me because I didn’t reach his ‘expectations.’ His ‘expectations’ was for me to resemble the 1,258 air-brushed women in bikinis he follows on Instagram. His ‘expectations’ was for me to wear tight dresses, 6-inch heels, have tanned skin and spend time on my appearance as to not embarrass him.

He concluded because I was a tomboy, his ridiculous standard of beauty could never be reached.

I play sports, wear loose t-shirts bought at the men’s section of H&M and am not afraid to get a little dirt in my hair and you know what? I am beautiful, because beauty is defined by respecting your body, kindness, intelligence and strength NOT pencil skirts, heels and a heavy hand of makeup.

I know his words and actions had nothing to do with me, and everything to do with his own insecurities.

One day, this man is going to have a wife, a daughter, and I hope they have a rational sense of mind and understand that they should never, ever beat themselves down over their appearance just to validate his unrealistic ‘expectations’ of beauty.

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  1. Julia Brooks says

    Girl, you don’t know that he’s gonna end up married with kids! If he keeps acting like that, he’ll be lucky to find someone to put up with him. You’re gorgeous, never let anyone tell you otherwise! xoxo

  2. what a powerful post. I agree with every word you said. Awesome post 🙂

  3. unknown778756565 says

    sorry you had to put up with that Jessica 😦

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